the university of the blissfully united
I was created gay and I know I’m not the only one. I know in my heart of hearts that God put mortals on Earth to prove they can be true even when times are tough. Passively, He lets bad people do bad things. Actively, he hands out trials like blindness and massive flooding to test our mettle. Yet He didn’t create us to be miserable.
I wont throw love away and choose misery. Quite the opposite is true.
I know Mr. Right is out there and we’ll meet someday. Once I start looking, anyway. Hopeless romantic that I am, I can’t help feel a certain pull of destiny drawing me into the dating scene. However, the mere concept of physical intimacy is denied me. I am not a eunuch. Prick me; do I not bleed? Where then is my release?
If I can’t hold hands, date, kiss, hug, cuddle, or flirt with another man then what is to be my sexual outlet? Do I abstain? Until when? Abstinence is only abstinence when a goal is present, an end date, an objective. Without an endgame, it is celibacy: a moral no-no the church has preached against since time immemorial. "Celibacy denies a man his God-given right to procreate," they say.
I can certainly believe that celibacy is a design of the adversary. Physical intimacy is important for the emotional, physical, and spiritual health of all people. Sex is itself a critical element of the human condition and necessary for the continuation of mankind. So I don’t mean to imply that children aren’t of the utmost importance but I maintain that God has created me and others like me outside the usual formula.
So what’s our purpose, our objective? Maybe were supposed to adopt all the kids callous heterosexuals leave on firehouse door steps.* Who could be a better parent than a man outcast and abandoned by society? Who could show more love to an exile than another exile in a society of exiles?
Call us what you will: Domestically Partnered or Civilly Unionized. It’s marriage, it’s necessary, and it leads to the betterment of children, parents, and all society.
*Don’t worry about us recruiting them into the wide world of homosexuality as THAT CAN’T HAPPEN. You also need not worry that cameras will steal your souls and if you make a face when the wind changes direction you will turn into a snow cone.