02 April 2007

The Pedestal of True Thought and Final Word

"Sex is a continuum. You go through different phases along life’s way … and if you don’t, you’ve been sort of cheated." -Gore Vidal

Before I entered the blog world I'd only spoken with one other gay man. Our conversations were interesting and enlightening. Though we did not know each other for long I cherished the freedom of holding no secrets from at least one person. More to the point, since I had only maintained a dialog with just the ONE gay man I might be tempted to elevate that conversation; place it on The Pedestal of True Thought and Final Word. It wont seem so important as I get to know more of the gay community. Our conversation will become a note in the chord of my personal philosophy.

One note in particular I found very interesting. To paraphrase him, "Many people claim to be bisexual because it is easier than claiming to be either purely straight or purely gay."

I can imagine where it would be a little easier to be bi than regular gay such as telling a friend of many years,

"So I'm bi."

"What you like guys!"

"No, I like girls but also guys."

"So you're like what, bisexual?"

"Yes, I'm bi."

"But you still want to have sex with women?"


The heterosexual will never understand what it's like to be gay anymore than a Canadian can understand what it means to be Chinese.* The two must find common ground and "liking boobies" not only works but diffuses the key difference between them.

But is this the only explanation of bisexuality? Hardly. Sexuality, like everything else human, rests on a sliding scale. Some are predisposed to like what they find on the female end of the spectrum and others find the male end irresistible. A multitude of social and developmental elements factor into our positions on that scale. Also, we can’t forget our cognitive efforts to move ourselves along that continuum to where we feel most comfortable.

Shake us like dice and see where we land.

As a Mormon and a gay man, I can't help but feel a little jealous of the true bisexual. This strange creature could conceivably marry, raise a family, and be fulfilled without being detected by the church or anyone else he didn't want to know. He could "choose a side," as it were.

Lucky bastard.

*I almost wrote, “…any more than a Canadian can understand what it means to be important.” :P


good tune


Mormon Enigma said...

As a Mormon and a gay man, I can't help but feel a little jealous of the true bisexual.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has thought this

drex said...

I'm completely jumping on that bandwagon. I've definitely thought that before.

(I also just this morning realized that I hadn't ever added your blog to my list of blogs to keep track of. The oversight has been fixed. :P)