neal called me a “pit viper” recently. what’s with that guy and phallic imagery?
You’re considering a “traditional” marriage. Good for you. A fool weighs not his options.
It works for some gays. I’ve met them so I can assure you it does work sometimes.* You’ll be a father like you’ve always wanted. You’ll be a husband like you’ve always wanted. You’ll get into that straight-only heaven you’ve always wanted.
Having weighed the pros and cons I’ve decided it isn’t for me. Having met the men who tried it only to meet with disastrous results I’ve estimated it isn’t right for most.
Normally, I would say this now, “Do as you will; it’s your life to make happy.”
But it’s not your marriage that explodes, is it? It’s her marriage, too.
It isn’t your life that explodes. It’s her life, too. It’s her identity, her self-esteem, and her kids that are caught in the shock wave.
She wasn’t prepared. How could she have been? Society didn’t teach her anything about this type of relationship. Neither did her family. Neither does her church. Neither did you telling her you were gay beforehand.
One might be fully aware they’re standing on railroad tracks, they may even be told the train is coming, see it’s bright lights, hear it’s sounding horn, and still not be prepared for the impact when it finally arrives.
And it always arrives.
*Allow me to make something perfectly clear for those of you who only read the first and last sentence of a post: I know it works for some gay guys.
good tune from an artist who will be missed (link, link, link)